Sunday, February 16, 2014
Whatever. Who Cares? No One Will Know.
Living in the real world, the one created and inhabited by God, that's a beautiful, fascinating, and intricate place. Unfortunately the lies, deception, and manipulation of age-old truths can distort this splendor until everything becomes dark, meaningless, and menacing.
In a recent blog post Matt Walsh exposes the lie about casual sex:
"We’re told that we are sexually 'liberated' if we throw ourselves at strangers and give ourselves over to people who couldn’t possibly care less about us. This is yet another lie. If modern attitudes about sex have 'liberated' us, what, precisely, have we been freed from? Security? Commitment? Trust? What, we’ve broken [are] the Shackles of Purity and Love and [sic] run gleefully into the Meadows of Pornography and Herpes? Because that’s all that our sexual liberation has wrought. A lot of confusion, a lot of porn, a lot of disease, a lot of emotionally desperate, psychologically battered, spiritually broken people wandering around, searching for another stranger who’s willing to go in for a few more rounds of sterile, shallow, pointless sex."
These lies have been around for a long time but especially took hold during the 1960s and 70s. The saying "if it feels good, do it," epitomized the new cultural standard and darkness crept in as no one spoke up about the broken hearts and shattered trust that were sure to follow. The truth about that statement is ignored because upon deeper examination what really feels good in the long run isn't the one night stand, but being valued in a long-term committed relationship.
Now, other popular sayings manipulate us into thinking "whatever," "who cares?" "no one will know." And the fallout from this flawed ideology, this departure from the Creator's reality, is that girls are pressured more than ever to have casual sex at ages way too young to cope with the reality of pain and shame that follow. Where can they turn when no one seems to care that a young girl has given away a precious part of themselves to a virtual strangers? Even worse, traffickers use the lies and deceptions to convince girls that they can make money by doing what they are doing anyway--sleeping with multiple men. And the girls (many of them children) increasingly feel worthless, devalued, dehumanized. But, whatever! Who cares? What no one knows is that girls and boys alike suffer in silence afraid of what others might think if they knew that casual sex really didn't feel so good.
Eliminating the darkness of the lie necessitates the critical thinking that brings forth the light of truth. That's where the power of a biblical worldview shines. It illuminates the reality that the Creator designed the human body for lovemaking to be a treasured gift saved for marriage. In this context intimacy develops and safeguards the heart, mind, and will in the security of a covenant--not a contract that can be broken--but a sacred vow "until death do us part.."
Simply by standing firm on that truth, believers can make a difference.